Holding. (Day 7)

I would consider not gaining weight in the last two days a victory and because of that, I will consider losing 1 lb. a miracle.  I know that slow and steady wins the race, so I will go slow.  I will go steady.

I will avoid temptation and eating like a normal person should.  I will have a protein rich breakfast.  I will move during the day.  I will make sure I have 250 steps each hour, thanks to my gizmo.  Even better, I will take the stairs.  I will not get a mid-afternoon pick-me-up snack.  I will choose fruit.  I will choose water.  I will choose better.

And tomorrow, I will try again to do even better than that.

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Get back into my clothes: Day 5

Thanksgiving has come and gone. While I enjoyed a smidge of all of the Thanksgiving treats, I avoided SO many temptations.  While my family enjoyed pancakes or sausage, I did not have the them Thursday morning.  I skipped the doughnuts on Black Friday.  I stopped at one glass of wine at dinner  I did not go back for seconds of anything.

Moreover, I got in nearly 12,000 steps each day.  I did crunches.  I got a good nights rest.

And yet, when I stepped on the scale today, I was actually up a half of a pound.

This is going to be harder than I thought.


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March back (in)to my closet: day 1

It is the day of reckoning, so to speak.  The Fit Bit Blaze showed up today so I was able to track my first 25  minutes of exercise.  (By the way, did you know that it will share your text messages too?  How cool is that?!)

I ordered a salad, with the dressing on the side, for lunch and I ate a light dinner too. I had a handful of Craisins for a snack. I did crunches and tried to do a push up.

I have a 40 day plan of attack and it involves a HUGE amount of mental ju-ju, but I can get it done.

I will NOT be buying a new wardrobe.

I will be back in my clothes by the first of the new year.

If you want to join me, PM me on Twitter at @ImJenChapman.

Day two tomorrow!

Thanks for reading!





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Getting fit…again

I am at my wit’s end.  I matched three months of daily exercise with weekly, er…daily indulgences of Halloween candy, wine and cheese, junk food and more.

I now weigh more than I have weighed in several years.  While the number bothers me, I think what bothers me more is the fact that I cannot wear most of the clothes in my closet. I only have 2 pairs of pants that (barely) fit and I have resorted to wearing several knit dresses that have plenty of give, coupled with sweaters, jackets and scarfs to try to hide my extra pounds.

I have to do something.

I am going to give this whole getting fit/healthy/smaller a go again.  My timing is interesting, right?  Why not start a healthy eating program the week of Thanksgiving?   The reality of my situation is that if I don’t do something, I am going to have to go buy a new wardrobe, which will put a serious dent in the Christmas budget and be a major downer on my holiday season.

So here goes!

I am going to try the 10 day shred with Juice Plus.  The plan is 10 days of Whole 30 like eating for 1-2 meals a day and then a shake in place of the other meals.  It is also coupled with exercise and accountability from a group of other people doing it.

The shakes and the capsules from Juice Plus are a new thing for me. (I really like to eat, so I am nervous about having a shake in the place of a meal, but I am game for anything at this point.)    As I have written before, I love the way I feel after I do a Whole 30.  I also really like the fact that there is nothing to buy.  It is a completely sustainable way to live.  BUT,  I am not making great choices on my own and I need to get things turned around quickly.  My plan is to drink the shakes daily and then after the 10 days, eat Whole30 meals more than I am now.  I am also going to allow myself the occasional holiday indulgences like wine because I am not a masochist. (The planning and restriction that Whole30 requires is too much for this time of the year.  I am not going to for perfect. I am going for easy and do-able.)

I also need to get some idea about how my fitness levels are improving.  While I have been more active in the last few months thanks to the #yearofresortliving, I am not sure I making myself any healthier.

I am going to get back to tracking myself and purchase the Fit Bit Blaze.  It is a little more sophisticated that the Fit Bit Flex and more importantly, the Blaze has a buckle on the back, so hopefully I cannot lose it!  (In the last 2 years, I have lost 3 Fit Bits, all with the button clasp, and a Jawbone.  I went back and forth on which device to get, since I loved both of the devices, and but I admit that the fact that so few people use the Jawbone was a problem for me.  I need the peer pressure of friends and coworkers participating in weekly challenges to get me going.  I only have one friend who uses a Jawbone, so I am going back to Fit Bit.)  I will resume my early morning power walks which are a heck of a lot more enjoyable now that the sun is up at 6:30 am instead of 7:30 am, but I will hopefully be able to see if I am truly getting a work out.

Hopefully, before the end of the year, I am back in my clothes.

Wish me luck!

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What do you do?

“What do you do?”  When the lovely woman seated to my right at a luncheon asked me this question, my friend on the left chuckled out loud.

“Good luck answering that, Jennifer!”

It wasn’t because I don’t know, but because I do several things and I am never quite sure what to say.  This blog post is the result of trying to come up with an answer.


Here goes.

My job: I run the Florida public affairs department of a Boston-based financial services company.  I spend my time working with elected officials from around the state, local non-profits, civic organizations, and other business leaders.  On any given day, I might be talking to a State representative about a bill, arranging a team service event for a group of volunteers, attending a Chamber of Commerce meeting, visiting with a member of Congress or their staff, or communicating with our associates about something going on in our area.  I often travel around the US for meetings and conferences.  I work with some of the smartest, most dedicated folks I know and for that reason and a whole bunch more, I love this job.  In March, 2017, I will have been at it for 10 years and, in my opinion, there is no better job for me.

My “side-gig”: If you move past my full time job, the next logical answer to the “what do you do?” question is my business.  While I have had some small money-makers on the side over the years, my Rodan + Fields business is a real business that suits my life. And, I love being the skincare lady!  I sell anti-aging products and tools, as well as items for acne, sensitive skin, sun damage and, as of this week, an eyelash product called “Lash Boost” that is blowing up my business. R+F has not only provided a reliable stream of revenue for our family, but has helped me be more confident, expanded my vision for our family’s future, and grown my circle of friends. I spend between 5 and 10 hours a week on my business, usually in small chunks of time – 15 minutes putting orders in, 30 minutes chatting with a prospective consultant who is considering joining my team, an hour of training once a week, etc., and I usually do my work after the kids are in bed or while I am in the car driving to an appointment or soccer practice.  Direct selling has come a long way from the days of home parties (I don’t do them) with garages full of inventory you have to pre-order and deliver (my products are drop-shipped by the corporate office/warehouse when they are purchased).  I have found that the people who have jumped into this type of business in recent years are smart, friendly, socially and technologically savvy people who are trusted by their circle of influence. It is a fun time to be in direct sales.

#Meetjax:  This summer, I started “Meet” (which may or may not be the final name) or #Meetjax, as it has come to be called.  I score folks coffee dates with an awesome person they didn’t know they needed to know.  There are three rules:  1.) You cannot pitch or sell anything, 2.) you cannot flirt, and 3.) you cannot know who you are going to meet until you get there. The response has been thrilling! Dozens of people have signed up and most of those have either come back for more or referred their friends to do it too.   This is my night time guilty pleasure; it is what I do instead of binge watch tv. 😉  I am really excited to see where this goes next.

Family stuff: Not to be overlooked, the second largest amount of stuff I do (after my full time job) is related to being a wife, mom, daughter and sister.  HH (Handsome Hubby) and I have 3 kiddos, known here as Vader, Splash and Turtle.  I am also excited to have 2 of my sisters and their families close by, as well as my mom who just retired and moved here this summer!  It is the bee’s knees. I am sure my daily to-do list looks a lot like yours: soccer, flag football, parent teacher conferences, school fundraisers, holiday gatherings, milestone events and such.

Other: As a volunteer, I currently chair the Early Learning Coalition of Duval and participate annually as a member of the selection committee for Leadership Jacksonville’s Adult Program.  As a representative of my company, I am on the board of trustees of the Florida Chamber Foundation and serve as the co-chair of the policy committee for the Jax Chamber.  I have also invested some time into the effort to open a Sudbury School in Northeast Florida although I admit, I have moved that to the back burner as my kids are all excelling in their current school.

Other other: As my mentor Audrey told me once, “You do better when you have a couple of new projects.” This is so true.  Over the last few years and with great intention, I sunset my roles with several wonderful non-profits and set the table for some new things in my life.  HH and I moved from our suburban home to a suburban apartment closer to the kids’ school and my office.  We are trying to live a leaner, cleaner life, which equates to buying less, purging what we already have, taking advantage of shared amenities and spending less time in the car.  I am reading more, walking more, inviting people over more, and sleeping more…sometimes.  This is our #YearOfResortLiving.  

I also realized that I wanted to connect more with the people I know.  #Jensquestions is result.  Monday through Friday, I post a different question on my Facebook page (Twitter is lagging, but I keep trying).  The answers delight, amaze and inform me about the marvelous people in my circle in a way that is just not possible in the limited amount of time we have to interact in person.  (The questions are always set to “public” on Facebook, so even if we don’t know each other personally, I welcome your replies too!)

That’s what I do. 🙂

Thanks for reading.


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Spanish Cove…Happy Trails

One happy day in the Spring of 2007, HH and I bought a 1976 traditional house in the Mandarin neighborhood of Jacksonville.  It was decorated in the style of “Early Ugly”, the previous owners having built the place 31 years prior, choosing decorator finishes that were all the rage in the 70’s (a green toilet, shag carpet, popcorn ceiling, foiled wallpaper and such.)  Decor aside, it was on a half acre lot with Spanish moss-covered oak trees, and it was the perfect location for the next stage in our lives.  We planned, as so many did in the early 2000’s, to renovate it, then host regular weekend parties, maybe grow our family in it, and then sell it a few years later for a hefty profit, a mere stepping stone to bigger and better real estate in the booming Florida market.

It is cliche to even say it, but my friends, life often doesn’t go as planned. One recession, one job eliminated, and two new babies later, we realized that we were going to live in this house for a long….long….long time.

Chapman Twins New Years

About 2 years in, I asked HH what his favorite spot was in the backyard.   He was puzzled until I explained that I was convinced we were going to die in this house and, should he go before me, I wanted to know where he’d like to be laid to rest.  It was that bad.

In 2012, things started to look up.  With the early success of my Rodan + Fields business and other strokes of good fortune, HH began the process of renovating our ugly home. Like most people who choose to renovate their home while they live in it, it goes incredibly slow and is horribly disruptive.


I went nearly 2 full years without kitchen counters, choosing to use discarded remnants of other people’s kitchen counters rested atop our cabinets until we could afford the Quartz we wanted.  The wood flooring we laid in 2014 did not match the kind we laid in 2012, so it had to be done again. We never once had a car parked in the garage because it held tools, flooring, tile, grout, base boards, lighting fixtures, crown molding, faucets, and more, not to mention the stuff that comes with 3 babies/boys.

House photos 004

Even with the improvements, we were stuck.  The house was all-consuming, leaving little time for family fun, no place for entertaining, and no extra money for anything.

Fast forward to this Spring, when the last bathroom had been gutted, tossing out mustard yellow tile and a Formica vanity to make way for a white subway surround and gorgeous modern double sinks.

When the last coat of paint dried, we realized the house was not only done, it was sell-able. And unless we wanted to re-do everything again (as realists, we know that with time comes a few broken windows, some school-age graffiti and general boy-life damage), we’d better hop to it.


So we sold it.

This was the house that my twins came home to, where two of my kids learned to walk and all three learned to ride a bike, where we held bouncy house birthday parties for Vader’s 3rd and 10th birthday (and my 40th!).  It was the place where my marriage was tested and not only survived, but thrived.

This was also a house that weighed on us like a ton of bricks, that kept us up many late nights whether in heated discussions about what we could afford to do next or quietly working away, covered in dust/paint/caulk/dirt from demolition or sanding or whatever was the project of the month.

And now, another family will get to enjoy the fruit of that labor.

What lies ahead for the Chapman family is a total departure from the last 9 and a half years. We have swapped our 2500 SF traditional and big yard for a 1350 SF apartment with a screened-in porch that is one-third the size of a decent parking space.

I am psyched.

I have the declared the next 12 months as the #YearOfResortLiving.  We will swim in the pool, workout in the gym, and play in the game room.  We will spend less time working on the upkeep of our place and more time exploring our city and hanging out with friends. And if you took the time to read this all the way through, my friends, that means YOU.  I may not have a guest room for weekend visits, but I do have a ridiculously strong desire to invite you over for a cold beer and a swim before the weather turns cool, or for a cookout in the fall using the shared grill and fire pit area.

Consider yourself invited – let’s do it soon.


Beyond that, who knows.  HH and I have talked about so many possiblities and the fact that we have options is fun, all by itself.  There is no hurry to get to a decision any time soon.

In the meantime, happy trails, Spanish Cove.  If you need me, I will be by the pool.


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2016 Road Trip – The Logistics

Now that it has been a week since our return, I have had a little time to get perspective on our 11 day, 4 city trip to Washington DC, Baltimore, Philadelphia and New York City and I wanted to share my thoughts, good, bad and ugly. (But, mostly good.)

This is a quick summary of the transportation and accommodations on each of our 11 days and 10 nights.

We picked these cities because they are all poor for RV travel.  In the future, if we do a major trip around the US, I want to avoid places like DC and NYC. From tolls to traffic, bridges and tunnels to expensive parking, I have enough anxiety about driving a car, let alone a monster size towable or motor coach.  So the decision was made to fly into DCA, and after sightseeing in the nation’s capitol, rent a car and drive the days in between, before dropping the car in NYC.   This way, we get to see these important and interesting places, without the dread of having to drive and park an RV.

To kick things off, we chose to fly. Jet Blue was super affordable and made traveling with kids easy, as each kid gets their own TV and choice of snacks.  Our flights left on time out of JAX airport and arrive in DC without incident.


Upon arrival at Reagan National Airport, we took the Metro to our hotel.  The Metro is really cheap and clean and we never had to wait more than a few minutes for a train. Truly, there is no need to rent a car to get around to see the sites in Washington DC.  Besides the subway, you can walk, rent a bike, or take a cab or Uber.  Parking is really expensive if you do have a car, so I recommend avoiding it.  (Our hotel garage was $30 per night!)

For lodging the DC, we chose the Embassy Suites in Alexandria, VA, perfectly located across the street from the Metro Station at King Street Station.   If you choose this hotel, you’ll also want to take advantage of sightseeing nearby in Olde Town. For that, the city of Alexandria provides a free round trip shuttle which also picks up in front of the hotel.  More on that later…  The hotel offers free breakfast and a happy hour with complementary snacks and drinks (including adult beverages!)  There is an indoor swimming pool, a fitness center and a very friendly staff.  We were there three nights.

After 4 days in DC,  HH picked up the car from Avis at DCA (again, using the Metro to get from our hotel to the airport.)   We loaded up the car, checked out of the hotel, and headed to Baltimore, a quick 1 hour drive from our place in VA.

In Baltimore, we wanted to experience the waterfront.  We decided to stay on a boat by booking a place through AirBnB.  It was a crazy thing to do with three boys, but I am glad we did it.  Not only was a famous Maryland crab restaurant just a few steps from where we were moored, but we were only a 20 minute walk to the Inner Harbor.  There was free overnight parking in the marina and the cost of the AirBnB was less than a hotel in the downtown corridor, with the added benefit of a waterfront sunrise.  If you can find an option like this, I recommend it.  No one in our family took showers on the boat, but for one night, who cares.

From MD to PA was another relatively short drive.  We found our Embassy Suites hotel on the Benjamin Franklin Parkway with ease.  Having not been in Philadelphia in years, I learned that there are two central areas that are good for tourists to stay. The Parkway puts you close to the Franklin Institute (more on that later), the Art Museum, the Natural History Museum, the Free Library, and more.   If you want to be close to the Liberty Bell, Independence Hall and other spots more closely aligned to the start of our nation’s history,  you’ll want to choose another hotel.  To get to these other sites, we took Uber rather than drive the car and fuss with parking.  It was only $6 each way, but it was an added step that we would have avoided if we picked a hotel in that part of Philly.  We also walked a lot.  Philly is a great city to walk around it.  I loved seeing the signs to not “Block the Box” at every intersection, reminding drivers to stay out of the pedestrian cross walks and give them the right of way.

Once again, we drove from PA to NYC.  The drive was the longest of our three jounts, but still less then 2 hours, with “exciting” moments as we crossed through Delaware and New Jersey.  We used the Holland Tunnel and popped up into the city on our 7th day.

For New York, we went bold with our NYC lodging.  Originally, we had planned a hotel in the middle of Times Square.  With no car, (HH returned it soon after we arrived), we thought it would be easy to get to the sites and be exciting for the boys. However, at the last-minute, I changed course.  Several friends had suggested the Times Square was akin to Disney World, with noise and crowds waiting for you at the entrance to every hotel and that stressed me out.  Instead, I went the AirBnB route again, choosing a spot in the East Village with a park across the street and a washer and dryer, along with a chance to pretend I lived in NYC for a few days.

It was a risky choice, and for the most part, it paid off.  We liked the coffee shops and pizza places nearby.  As predicted, there was less noise and fewer crowds and we had more room than a hotel, with less hidden fees and more reasonable prices for things like meals, snacks and souvenirs. However, we went a little too far off the path of convenience.  The 5 block walk from the subway after a full day of sightseeing was a slog for me, let alone for my 8 and 11 year olds.

As for getting around in the city, we hardly spent anything.  The subway was REALLY cheap and the only time we didn’t use it was when we had a tour that started at a specific time and we were running late. I guess they have to make something affordable in NYC and public transit is it.

For the return flights, were went with Jet Blue again and chose to leave out of JFK.  Our subway trip to the airport was long, but manageable.  The Jet Blue terminal was well-appointed and cheerful, but that was forgotten when we sat on the runway for over an hour and a half waiting our turn to depart.  JFK is a very crowded airport and unbeknownst to me, they often have delays on the tarmac.  Lesson learned.

We got home 11 days later, poorer in the pocket, but rich with memories and experience.

Travel because you can and be well.




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My 2016 January Whole30 Recap

finished-the-w30-fb-coverI finished my 4th Whole30 on Wednesday.  (I also did a Whole30 in June ’13, July ’14, and January’ 15.) This particular span of 30 days included New Year’s Eve, the wedding of a friend, three trips for work and the debut of the Star Wars: The Force Awakens.  Translation: This particular span of 30 days had me on the sidelines of champagne toasts, excellent catered food, meals at the company’s expense with a plethora of non-compliant options and movie popcorn. Ug.

This 2016 Whole30 was initially financially motivated.  My eating had gotten so bad that when I stepped on the scale after indulging my every whim during the holidays, I confirmed what I already knew.  Unless I wanted to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe, I had to change.  I had NOTHING to wear that didn’t make me look that dancing wedding guest from Steel Magnolias. (see the part at 49 seconds.)

I am an all-or-nothing kind of person when it comes to diet and exercise.  I know that most people do best when they take everything in moderation; make good choices and enjoy small indulgences occasionally, but that is not how I operate.  I am lousy at having only having one cookie, one slice of pizza, or one glass of wine.  One turns into two…which turns into stuff-my-face-for-days.  Whole30 works for me because the rules are straight forward and there is no gray area.  It is all or nothing.

– Eat clean fish, meat, poultry, veggies, fruits, fats, nuts and good fats.

– Do not eat processed foods, grains, soy, sugar, alcohol, legumes, or dairy.

– Do it for 30 days.

– Reset your body and your mind at the same time.

So here is what I have taken from my most recent #Whole30:

  • I feel better, physically and mentally when I eat this way.
  • I am no longer grumpy about my #whole30 food choices. I have purchased two terrific cookbooks (NomNom Paleo and Whole30 Cookbook). I used Pinterest more and because of it, I was able to find several kid-friendly options that I can feed my family so that I am not cooking two different meals. (Check out my Pinterest Paleo board for ideas, although not 100% of the pins are Whole30 compliant.)
  • Plan. Plan. Plan.  Unlike my last Whole30s, I made and brought my breakfast or lunch to work every day, unless I had a function to attend.  I planned dinner one or two nights in advance and made sure to thaw, prep and wash the night before so that cooking was a breeze. This was key to maintaining a better mood and lower stress.
  • LARA bars = life savers.  Cherry pie and lemon bar are my favorites.


  • I lost 9 lbs. While this is great, it is only slightly more than half of what I need to lose to wear my favorite clothes again, but I’ll take it.
  • My pants and jeans that barely fit in December are not only able to be zipped up now, but look better because I am not bloated and puffy.  A flat tummy is so much nicer than a poochy one.
  • I am sleeping better.  While I never had “tiger blood” this time around, my energy level has been more consistent and mornings are not as tough after a restful night.
  • I am also not dragging in the afternoon.  With no need for an artificial sugar-boost toward the end of the work day, my kids have even noticed that I come home more energized and in a better mood.  (Having dinner dinner planned also helped eliviate post-work day stress…see lessons above.)
  • I have not felt or been sick in 30 days.  No upset stomach, no hangovers, no gurgling digestion issues, nada.  After months of indegestion, headaches, and general malaise, this is HUGE.

I took a more thoughtful approach to rewarding myself as well.  At 10 days, bought myself a new tube of lipstick. At 15 days, I took myself to the movies.  At 20 days, I got a manicure and pedicure.  At 29 days, I took a 45-minute long bubble bath. I had these ideas planned out in advance and I looked forward to them the way I usually to look forward to birthday cake at a party, although in truth, I still look foward for birthday cake.

I missed cheese most of all, so on day 31, I reintroduced some sugar-free dairy by adding a little goat cheese to my grilled chicken, but otherwise I had a regular Whole30 kinda day.  (I had learned from previous Whole30s that when I eat dairy combined with sugar, it is BAD.  The first time I had ice cream, I thought I was having a heart attack.)  I did not notice any significant side effects from the cheese aside from a little tummy rumbling. And it was worth it.  I will try a few more varieties of cheese and milk, before testing legumes and grains next.  And there might be wine.

Ok, there will be wine.

If you are curious about trying Whole30, I say go for it.  There is no real downside.  You won’t go hungry, there is no special powder you have to buy, no appliance you need to mix up your food, no contract you have to sign, and no points or calories you have to track.

Yes, 30 days of denying yourself some of your favorite foods is not fun, but on the other side, you might learn a bunch about your body and your self.

And you might get back into those skinny jeans.






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Obsessed with RV life

Two places on the inter-web have been my obsession this week.

Full Time Families (FTF): This resources is for those who are curious about family life on the road or have already make RV living a reality. The Facebook page for the group has tons of information about the practical realities of RVing with kiddos and the membership is very active.

Rand McNally’s Trip Maker – Don’t get me wrong; I am a card-carrying member of the AAA, but this website is so user-friendly.  I was able to plot up to 25 cities on the travel plan, get mileage, estimated driving time and gas costs and even poke around for other stops in the area that might be interesting.   I have already designed 4 (more) iterations of our trip.

In addition, I have bulked up my Pinterest page with lots more content about RV renovations, stuff to do with kids in cities I think we’ll eventually visit, tips for how to handle life on the road, and more.


The biggest “ah-ha” moment for me is how many people seem to be considering this every day? ! There are 5 or 10 new members of the FTF FB group page every time I log on and I am finding tons of blogs from couples with children of all ages who are already on the road.

While I have NO idea when we’ll do this, it is motivating to see others get going.  Are you on the road?  How long did it take you from idea to launch?  Any words of wisdom for me?

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Back to School and the Ugly Cry

A friend with a 5-year old just shared a great piece with me from the Huffington Post; it is an open letter to the moms of soon-to-be Kindergartners. And now, as I sit here on the couch nearly five years after my first Kindergarten drop-off, and only a few weeks before my 10 year old Vader starts his last year of elementary school, I just finished up a good, long, ugly cry.

It was probably not for the reasons you’d think.

Like many moms,  I was sad that this right of passage had crept up on us after years of daycare drop offs.  It seemed to me that with arrival of Kindergarten, he would be off to college in a blink.  I was blown away by how simultaneously big and small my son seemed.  He was a little shy and visibly nervous, but I had faith he was ready.  I put on my brave face and away we went together into this new chapter in his life where the teacher assured me it was all going to be OK.   I scooted out the door to my car to have a long, good, ugly cry.

Like many mom’s, I expected that tomorrow would be a little easier and the next day, easier still.

I was wrong.

I have shared in earlier posts about the train wreck that was Vader’s year of Kindergarten. By the end of his first full year of school, Vader hated school and begged us not to send him back.  We sought professional guidance and put Vader thought months of testing and evaluation over the following summer, and ultimately, he was diagnosed with ADHD.

There was nothing wrong with him. He just needed us to meet him where he was. And we have.  No school is perfect, but his current school is much better at working with Vader in a way that works for Vader.  Heck, he made A/B honor roll at the end of 4th grade!  He has friends at school!  He wants to go back!

Happy ending, yes?!?

So what am I crying about?

I cry because I mourn for my son and his Kindergarten experience. There were so many fights.  Tons of crying.  Pleading.  Misery.  He was suffering and I was not able to protect him.

And it is possible it could happen again.

Like the mother in the Huffington post feature, I am still nervous for my son because even now, going into the fifth grade, I still worry.  Will he feel safe?  Will he feel smart?  Will he want to learn?  Will it all be OK?

Like these moms, I know I have to trust that I did everything I could to set my little one up for success, but I worry that it isn’t enough.

Because in Kindergarten, it wasn’t.

And now I am crying again.

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